You know the past couple of months, I’ve been dealing with an issue. Late April, well the day of my Birth my husband ended up getting into a serious car accident. He was coming home from an event that night with his friends. It was also raining outside which did not help the fact at all that he had a couple of drinks. He ended up hitting a pothole, tried to over correct the steering wheel and ended up going head first into an oak tree. I woke early the next morning with phone calls coming in about my husband in the emergency room and that he has to go into surgery.
After I took myself a shower, packed the kids bags. I rushed over to my mother in laws house who just happen to stay literally right down the street from the hospital that my husband was at. I can tell you one thing it helps to live close to a hospital, and have a mother in law who just retired.
However, I left the kids and went to the hospital to check on my husband and figure out what was going on. To my surprise he was a little responsive which was a good thing, since usually in times like this I thought he would be freaking out, but he was managing even in spite of what he just went through.
After speaking to the doctors and my husband, who at this moment was still in the ER, had a dislocated hip on the right side. The doctors had to pop it back in place. Although that was not all he also fractured his hip on that side and would have to go into surgery.
To cut the whole story short, he spent a whole week in the hospital, in so much pain. Not able to walk or do anything for himself. Mad at himself and at mad at the world. My husband could have died that night along with his friend who was in the car. Who just happened to be wearing his seat belt.
He only suffered a broken hand and wrist.
Thank God for that, because man. I know he was looking out.
Ryan, came home from the hospital not able to walk or even able to bathe him self. He also has drop foot with some feeling. Not totally bad , but he will have to go through physical therapy.
To try to regain some of the nerve sensation back.
One thing I can say, is it has been a roller coaster of emotions and try to figure out what to do next. It really make you put things into perspective and realize that sometimes things will not always be a smooth riding roller coaster. He is the main breadwinner in the family and having that taken away for awhile. Really make you buckle down and appreciate the simple things. We had to cut out a lot things and really just get by. With him home and until he gets better and able to actually able to walk again without the need of crutches or a walker.
My kids will have to go to school for a least the next year and not be home schooled. This is not a decision that has not been taken lightly with me because I love my kids staying home with me. However, I have to place them in school.
I did find a private school that follow the living books methodology and will be placing them there. Very small class size and I’m sure they will do fine. As far as for me I will be taking care of home the husband and focusing on my online ventures to help with the family expenses.
You know in life the saying.
If life throws you a lemon – make lemonade.
~Joan Collins
Well that is Indeed what I plan to do.
P.S.
I hope you enjoyed the pic! We ended up taking the kids to beach for the week, on a family vacation trip. In which we get free 7 days to stay each year. I’ll say it was just what the doctored ordered after all of this.
Wow I’m sorry to hear about this. I’m glad it wasn’t worse. I had to put my kids in school for awhile after my divorce, and it was so hard! But it was fine. They thrived, and their teachers loved them. It made me appreciate homeschooling (and so did they!) all the more when we could return to it. No guilt mama! You’re doing great. I’ll keep you in prayer. 🙂
Ahh! Thanks Carrie for the encouragement! It really does make you appreciate things and those whom you love.
Just found your website through Happy Black Woman! Really love the look and feel.
Sorry to hear about your husband’s accident!! Glad he’s doing okay now.
I really appreciate your perspective though, making this a teachable moment. There’s so many ways that you could look at any given situation. So, glad you chose lemonade. Thanks for the reminder!
Awesome! Thank you too! The best thing is too always stay positive and worry about this day not the next! Thanks for commenting,! Love your site too! Interesting!